yes, thank you.

This was something that sort of fell into my lap today, right on the heels of my post about In-Game female shaming in WOW:




One thing i might add in that I don't think was covered is that while all of this is good and just, I don't think that many women gamers have the feeling that this will ever come to pass in a large scale, because the problem of women's viability as only sex objects or only hyper-emotional servants isnt relegated to only the world of geek. Sexism and Mysogenism are hand and hand, and more importantly, they are an unspoken, understood social moire that's been sewn into the western social structure. Trust me when I say I'd love nothing better than to see women who are actually wearing clothing and not a BDSM fetish uniform (coming from a BDSM supporter, btw).
I also think its a little bombastic to assume that women need to 'prove' their gaming requisites, like trying to attend to the male gaze to get into a club that is otherwise open and welcoming (except for homosexuals, of which it is largely still a part of the deep south in that respect.) I'm sorry, but I enjoy playing games to whatever degree I feel like playing them, and I don't feel like I therefore have to become part of a large litmus test of what other women do or don't enjoy, how they conduct themselves, etc. I experience this a lot as a comic book geek too, and my endless tales of sexism from customers while im running the comic book section at work could be written into a small library.

Heres the gist: for women gamers/geeks/what-have-yous to feel like we're actually being included into the sub culture in a non-patronizing, non-ironic way, we need to work at a higher level than just seeing that other male gamer-geeks can see us as human and not some semi-interesting 'cum dumpster'. We need to change how society at large sees and treats women and women's rights. Otherwise, we're just slowly sloshing water out of a quickly capsizing ship.